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How to correct rude language ?
My dear son, since he was six years old, he has started playing sports in the neighborhood instead of at home, he has made new friends, and he has started learning good and bad habits and bad words from them. Tell me, should I ban it completely?
Answer: No, sir, do every such thing. If you keep the child under house arrest, how will he deal with the problems that may arise in the future? The social interaction of the child is very important.
Should I ban his friends from whom he learns bad language?
Answer: No, it would be rude. If you do this, he will meet them secretly, which will make his nature inclined towards disobedience.
So should I choose my son's friends myself?
Answer: It would not be appropriate at all to do so, because if you choose his friends on your own, he may not even befriend the children you have chosen.
So what should I do and what is the cure for his deteriorating tongue?
Answer: First of all, you must believe that children can be prevented from doing something wrong only by expressing their love and feelings correctly. If your child learns a bad word in the future and starts speaking it at home, do not disturb him or her, but call him or her to you with love. Son, where did you learn this word? And openly express your dislike for this word. In the meantime, bring a look of intense disgust on your face. Just say that for the first time and leave. If he repeats this word a second time, do not say anything to him, but bring a look of intense disgust on his face, he will understand immediately. If he uses obscene language for the third time, you too will intensify your feelings of disgust. For example, put your fingers in your ears. Make your face look as if you are smelling bad and in the meanwhile one and a half sentences can be said that when I hear this word I start smelling.
Remember!
The child understands emotions well and does not tolerate his parents' resentment at all, so he immediately tries to get rid of their boredom. You should also keep this in mind when correcting an indecent word. That the word you want to correct should not be uttered by you and your wife at all. Rather, it should be pointed out only in gestures and allusions. After this conversation, he left and a few days later, his phone rang. His tone of voice seemed to indicate that he was quite happy. He thanked me and said that by following your suggestions, my son has stopped using such and such word in his speech.
A few months later I spoke to him again and he said that whenever he learned such a word, I would follow your suggestions. The effect was that there was a clear change. He no longer befriends children who utter obscene words, but he befriends children who talk well. He thanked me again for saying that. In the language of the poet
If you can't change anything by sealing the tongue, then change my thoughts,
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